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How many times have you dealt with a direct power struggle between you and your teenager…or you and your toddler for that matter? When you are in the midst of a power struggle with one of your children, it is often painfully clear what you are dealing with. In our marriages, however, it can be more difficult to detect when the balance of power in the relationship is misaligned.
When I meet with couples in marriage counseling, I often observe a dynamic of one spouse being in a position of having more control in the relationship. In many cases this dynamic represents an important, yet agonizing stage in the marriage – the Power Struggle. Most often, the couple does not realize the balance of power in the relationship is amiss.
To help a couple determine if the power and control in marriage is unequal I have them answer a few questions like the ones below.
Depending on your answers, you may have more power in the relationship or you may be allowing your spouse to control you. In either case, it is important for each spouse to recognize that there exists a disproportionate amount of control in the relationship.
What is the wonderful thing to understand, is that working through power struggles is a critical stage of marital longevity. Research has found that after couples have gone through the Romance stage in marriage, they are faced with the Power Struggle stage. For example, after romance has faded, the wife may want more time with her friends and the husband more time for hobbies.
How does this ultimately affect marriage? As couples mature in marriage their attitude toward marital independence changes. These altering attitudes often are displayed by classic signs of a power struggle. If a couple is aware that this is a natural progression in the life-cycle of a marriage which is actually necessary for the longevity of the marriage, it can make this difficult time much more bearable.
To help couples survive this challenging stage of their relationship there are a variety of interventions that can make great strides in bringing equilibrium back into the marriage. For example, it is important to understand that power struggles with your partner often originate from various unmet childhood needs and a set of core beliefs. We need to look at how we might be using our childhood strategies unconsciously to try to resolve those unmet needs. In addition, it is critical to recognize the fundamental beliefs about ourselves and how that affects our reactions to our spouse. Learning what our triggers are as well as that of our spouses is another critical step in dealing with power struggles.
Through awareness, analysis, and understanding, your marriage can begin healing and growing into the long-term, deep relationship you have always wanted. It is truly never too late to have the marriage you desire. With the help of a Living Life counselor, seeking God’s direction through therapy, and focusing on the boundless love of Jesus Christ you can begin living life to the fullest.
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